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Eulogy

Eulogy Ending: How to Say Goodbye With Grace

Mitch tapner

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Creating a eulogy is a deeply personal task. It can feel daunting, especially when you’re dealing with grief. But often, it’s the small things that stay with people most. A gentle memory. A heartfelt goodbye.

One part of writing a eulogy that’s easy to overlook is the ending. It’s where everything comes together – the moment when you honour a life, offer comfort, and provide a final takeaway from the service.

Whether you’re writing for a loved one or supporting someone else, we hope this guide helps you find the right words to close with care and meaning.

Key takeaways:

  • The end of a eulogy offers comfort and helps people begin to say goodbye.
  • Simple, heartfelt words in your own voice leave a lasting impression.
  • A short thank you or memory adds warmth and connection.
  • You could use a quote or verse only if it truly fits the person and your message.
  • Try to speak calmly and let your final words settle, they matter.
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The importance of a strong eulogy ending

The final words of a eulogy often stay with people long after the service ends. They’re a chance to honour a life, and offer comfort to those left behind. In the quiet of a funeral setting, when feelings sit close to the surface, how you end a eulogy can make a difference.

It’s not always about finding perfect words. Often, it’s about creating a sense of calm. A few simple lines can bring comfort, offer understanding, and help people begin to say goodbye.

Whether you’re creating a eulogy for a friend or speaking about a parent, partner, or sibling, those closing moments at a funeral can give people space to reflect.

If you’re still unsure what to expect on the day, our guide to what happens at a funeral can help you feel more prepared.

What a good ending achieves

  • Brings a sense of closure to both speaker and listeners
  • Leaves a lasting, respectful picture of the person
  • Gently highlights values, memories or moments worth remembering
  • Offers comfort, without feeling heavy or forced

A good ending doesn’t need to be clever or poetic. It just needs to feel honest.

Elements of a meaningful eulogy conclusion

Strong endings are often simple. The most moving words are usually those that come from the heart, rather than a script.

Try speaking naturally, in your own voice, keeping the focus on connection, gratitude and gentle reflection.

Gratitude and appreciation

A quiet “thank you” can say a great deal. In the emotion of the day, it’s easy to forget – but it matters.

  • Thank those who’ve come, especially if they travelled far or supported the family
  • Mention carers, nurses or friends who helped
  • Share how the person made a difference to others – with kindness, humour or quiet strength

You don’t need to say much. What matters is the feeling behind it.

Personal reflection

A short, honest memory can bring warmth to the end of a eulogy. It reminds everyone listening that your grief is shared and real.

For example:

“He taught me to keep going with courage and to laugh, even on the hardest days. I’ll carry that with me.”

These small, personal moments help others remember the person with love.

Saying goodbye with heartfelt words

There’s no need to make the ending complex. What matters most is that it feels sincere.

Try to stick to one clear thought and aim for something that would make the person smile if they were listening.

Examples of closing phrases

Some short, gentle phrases that can help end your speech:

  • “Goodbye, and thank you for everything.”
  • “We’ll carry you with us, always.”
  • “Rest peacefully—we’ll love you forever.”
  • “Until we meet again.”

Use words that fit the relationship. For a parent, “I’ll miss you, Mum” can say more than a poem. For a partner, “Thank you for loving me” may be all that’s needed.

You can find more inspiration in our eulogy examples and eulogy templates – a useful starting point if you’re not sure where to begin.

Inspirational closings and quotes

Sometimes someone else’s words express what we feel but can’t quite say. A short quote or verse can help, if chosen with care.

You could look for something that feels true to the person, such as their values, beliefs or way of living.

Selecting the right quote

Pick something short and thoughtful. Think about what mattered to them, what they believed or loved.

A favourite book, song, or film often offers more meaning than something well-worn.

Examples:

“To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die.” – Thomas Campbell
“What is lovely never dies, but passes into other loveliness.” – Thomas Bailey Aldrich

When to use poetry or scripture

If faith or tradition was important to the person, a short verse or scripture may be a fitting way to close.

  • Keep it brief – one or two lines is enough
  • Choose something personal and relevant
  • Keep the tone steady with the rest of the speech

Spoken with care, a quiet verse can bring a sense of calm.

Ending with a story or message

Sometimes, a short memory or story is the most powerful way to end.

It doesn’t need to be long – just a moment that captures who they were. A kind gesture, a familiar saying, or a moment of joy or courage.

If you’re looking for inspiration, our article on funeral ideas can help you think about small, meaningful touches that reflect the person’s life – whether in the service or in your final words.

Recalling a defining moment

You might share:

  • A phrase they often said
  • A moment that showed their kindness or humour
  • A small act that reflected who they were

Example:

“The last thing Dad said to me was, ‘Make someone smile today.’ That’s who he was. And that’s what I’ll try to do, every day.”

Even a bittersweet memory can leave people feeling uplifted.

Tone and delivery tips for a poignant ending

What you say is important – but how you say it matters just as much.

Take your time. Let your words settle. A calm, steady tone helps your message land gently.

Practicing the final paragraph

Read your ending out loud a few times. Get comfortable with the pace. Let yourself pause where it feels right.

Write it down. Having it in front of you can help if emotions rise.

And if your voice shakes, or you need a moment – that’s okay. That’s love. And love is the strongest thing you can offer in a moment like this.

Common mistakes to avoid in a eulogy ending

Even with care, some endings can feel unfinished or unclear. A few things to watch out for:

  • Over-explaining: No need to repeat everything – trust your words have been heard
  • Being too vague: Keep the message grounded, not abstract
  • Overusing humour: A light moment is fine if it feels natural, but this isn’t the time for a routine
  • Abruptness: Give your closing words time to land. Don’t rush away too quickly

What not to say

It’s best to avoid lines like:

  • “That’s all I’ve got.”
  • “I don’t know what else to say.”

Instead, take a breath. Let the room settle. You might say:

“Thank you for being here to remember her with me.”

It brings things to a natural, gentle close.

Aura is here to help

Writing a eulogy – especially the final words – can feel like a heavy responsibility. At Aura, we understand how hard it is to find the right things to say when you’re grieving.

If you’re planning ahead, our team can help you record your wishes as part of a funeral plan, including what you’d like said or remembered at your funeral. *Terms and conditions apply. You will receive a funeral plan summary before purchase*

For families arranging a service now, whether it’s a traditional ceremony or a direct cremation, we offer gentle guidance and support every step of the way, from suggesting readings to sharing funeral wake ideas or simply listening.

We’re here to make things a little easier, so you can focus on what matters most: remembering someone with love and care.

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The end of a eulogy should feel honest and heartfelt. You might share a short memory, express gratitude, or say a simple goodbye. The key is to speak from the heart and let your words reflect the person you’re remembering.

Yes, if it feels right for the person and the tone of your speech. A short line from a poem, book or scripture can add meaning, especially if it reflects their values or beliefs. Avoid anything that feels too generic or overused.

A gentle, well-placed moment of humour can work – if it suits the person and the setting. A fond memory, a familiar phrase or a shared joke can bring warmth, as long as it’s respectful and in keeping with the tone of the day.

Take your time. A short pause before your final words can help them land gently. Avoid phrases like “That’s it” or “I don’t know what else to say.” Instead, close with something simple and sincere, such as “Thank you for remembering her with me.”

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